nohalation: (Qm1iA6s)

[personal profile] nohalation 2020-04-19 03:32 am (UTC)(link)
Uh-huh, Uh-huh.

[nod nod]

I have pride, too. But why does that matter with gifts?
scarvedforlife: (Really you don't need to be shy about it)

[personal profile] scarvedforlife 2020-04-19 04:00 am (UTC)(link)
Well, say you solved that problem. And then someone gives you a gift saying 'good job solving that problem' or 'you finally did it!' or 'thanks for solving that problem for me'. Are those all okay?
scarvedforlife: (Looks like...)

[personal profile] scarvedforlife 2020-04-19 04:16 am (UTC)(link)
Okay! Now, some people, don't want to be thanked. Some people are satisfied with solving the problem and solving that problem was its reward for them. But now people who were completely uninvolved are saying what a good job you were doing, when it seems like they don't really care about what you were doing.
scarvedforlife: (Really you don't need to be shy about it)

[personal profile] scarvedforlife 2020-04-19 05:00 am (UTC)(link)
So for those people... the ones giving gifts don't feel genuine. Don't make them feel good.
nohalation: (Qm1iA6s)

[personal profile] nohalation 2020-04-19 06:22 am (UTC)(link)
Huh...

[this is the face of someone who doesn't seem to understand that either.]
scarvedforlife: (Not as wise as I say I am.)

[personal profile] scarvedforlife 2020-04-19 06:41 pm (UTC)(link)
No good? I guess to get that, you gotta get the feelings of mistrust...