If HSS knew what you were doing and got themselves killed over it... then, as callous as it might be to say, that's their problem. And it's not fair of them to take it out on you. They need to learn to respect your autonomy -- which I think is part of a bigger issue here in general, but maybe that's a discussion for a different time. The point is, of course emotions are going to be high in that situation, but... that's not your fault and I don't think just making assumptions is the way to handle it.
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If HSS knew what you were doing and got themselves killed over it... then, as callous as it might be to say, that's their problem. And it's not fair of them to take it out on you. They need to learn to respect your autonomy -- which I think is part of a bigger issue here in general, but maybe that's a discussion for a different time. The point is, of course emotions are going to be high in that situation, but... that's not your fault and I don't think just making assumptions is the way to handle it.