Well... what hope has been shown to her? Besides like, you telling her that having no hope is dumb or something. That's not really helpful... we've had some rough talks but we still come out of them pretty okay, even if we disagreed.

[ a pause. and, sort of gently, ]

Trying to empathize a little wouldn't hurt either, with her. Also like, I don't mean to sound like, patronizing or whatever.