If you can, then don't try it. Fucking do it.

And why wouldn't you blame that person? If your situation was reversed, don't you think she'd be fucking furious at you right now? You have to decide for yourself what kind of recompense you want from that situation, if any. Otherwise, it's just going to be more fuel for your anger and hate.

And I don't think you're a person with a high tolerance for either.